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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2017 20:29:48 GMT
After his barmitzvah at 13, passing his driving test at 17 and spending a gap year in Israel at 18, our eldest is leaving for university tomorrow. The car is full, his mother is coping and his father hoping that the wings we have given him in the first 19 years will fly him off to success and happiness.
My father (83 today and in full health) watch me grow up and succeed and gets great enjoyment from spending time with his grandchildren. I hope I am able to emulate him.
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Post by Rob on Sept 16, 2017 22:04:56 GMT
All the best for your eldest - he will enjoy university. Where's he going? I assume not the north west because moving away is part of this. I went from Wales to Manchester. I'd never go back to where I was born.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2017 6:16:15 GMT
Thank you. He's going to Birmingham.
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Post by WDB on Sept 17, 2017 11:19:44 GMT
Thank you. He's going to Birmingham. I've heard that place has turned out some extraordinarily talented, capable and handsome graduates. Hope he enjoys it - and remembers it's not all about work. |
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Post by tyrednexited on Sept 17, 2017 11:24:03 GMT
I've heard that place has turned out some extraordinarily talented, capable and handsome graduates. ....I knew there was some way I wasn't going to fit in when I turned it down.....  |
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Post by Humph on Sept 17, 2017 14:30:28 GMT
Just bear in mind, that Birmingham is currently the only city in Britain, where people daily and willingly, pay to use a road which allows them to avoid going into it, and gets them past it more quickly...
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Post by bromptonaut on Sept 17, 2017 16:36:36 GMT
Up and down M1 to Leicester daily at moment, Mother had fall and going downhill. Seen lots of cars loaded to gunwales with 'leaving home' stuff, two parents in front and teenager in back. Seems no time at all since we were doing it with our eldest but actually 2011. She gets her Masters form Plymouth, where she lives now, on Friday and will be married by this time next year.
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Post by Humph on Sept 17, 2017 17:49:52 GMT
Yes, time does indeed seem to accelerate as the years pass.
Someone pointed out to me today that it's only 3 months until Christmas...that feels impossible !
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2017 19:36:04 GMT
Well, he has been dropped off - well technically he drove down in the Punto with his mother riding along side, and his father following in the E-class estate loaded up. He is keeping the Punto with him. Where he is living is a really lovely area of Edgbaston, but not overly convenient for shopping etc. Has a lovely en-suite study bedroom with kitchen corner and it should be a comfortable place to live and study over the next nine months.
He is a bit of a party animal when he wants, so won't spend all his time in front of a screen.
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Post by Alanović on Sept 18, 2017 9:18:35 GMT
Thank you. He's going to Birmingham. I've heard that place has turned out some extraordinarily talented, capable and handsome graduates. Hope he enjoys it - and remembers it's not all about work. My sister, 3 years my senior, was at Birmingham also. I wonder if your paths crossed? You know my surname WDB, probably weren't too many of them about.
My niece has just started University this week also, after a gap yah in Australia. Oxford Brookes. They have no parking there so she's left her Citroen C1 at my place again, but the Leaf has to live in the garage now so the C1 is under wraps round the corner, poor wee yellow thing. So I now have DCR, Merc lightish blue, and greenish/yellowish/discharge/outer bruising on the driveway. Is that the Columbian flag?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2017 11:43:07 GMT
So, first morning at University. 7:30am. WhatsApp showing last activity at 0230... Eventually he surfaced after much calling and getting the guy in the room next door to pound on his door. "I went clubbing... I'm making friends Dad!" Oh Lord. Has to be in the first Welcome lecture at 9:30am and it's an hours journey across town.
Anyway later on he messages... "You were right - Definitely a couple of people on this course who aren't here to learn". So the pep talk about watching who he associates with got through. Phew. Feel happier now. When do you let go of the apron strings???
And I have to do this twice more with #2 and #3???
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Post by Alanović on Sept 18, 2017 11:56:05 GMT
University? Learning? What?
Do not recognise concept.
As for keeping tabs - when I went to university my sole parent had already buggered off to live up a mountain near Gibraltar, which didn't get a phone service for another 5 years. I was on my own. Well, I had my shonky VW Beetle.
Let him go, EIII, time's here for him to make, and learn from, his own mistakes. The clubbing and socialising is some of the most important stuff.
I'm certain I'll be saying the same in 6 years when my first (hopefully) sods off to University somewhere. Says he wants to go to Reading and stay at home at the moment. This will not last.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2017 15:53:24 GMT
I know. However he has always been a sensitive soul, having had lots of mental health issues from age 10 to 14/15 and not being quite sure where appropriate boundaries lie. Possibly ASD, but if it is, its very mild. Still a little that way inclined though, but making good progress to being more independent and being comfortable with it. However for his own good we need to keep a loose tab on where he is up to - he ended up in hospital on New Years Eve 2014 I think having had a few drags on some pot, and far too much alcohol too quickly. I am sure that over the next 12 months we can relax the strings even more than we have done over the last 12 months when we was away on his gap year but on a lightly supervised programme.
His younger brother however has not had those issues and he already is more independent and the strings can be cut more swiftly with him. What we do with their sister, I don't want to talk about...
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Post by Alanović on Sept 18, 2017 18:08:12 GMT
Ah, I see. Jolly good, carry on. I hope your lad settles quickly and has a wonderful few years.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2017 5:13:14 GMT
Thank you.
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